3 – Finding the One
“…a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh, so they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” – Matthew 19:5-6
If you travel the same road as everyone else, you are going to end up at the same destination.
To really be fulfilled in life, you have to find The One.
“Of all of the commandments, what is the most important?” Jesus replied, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and all your soul and all your mind.… Read the rest
Relationships: No Strings Attached
3 – Mating
“Your rounded thighs are like jewels, the work of a skilled craftsman. Your navel is perfectly formed like a goblet filled with mixed wine. Between your thighs lies a mound of wheat bordered with lilies. Your breasts are like two fawns, twin fawns of a gazelle.” – Song of Solomon 7:1-3
- The World’s Way: Do WHAT you want, WHEN you want and with WHOMEVER you want
- God’s Plan: Have a great time for a lifetime… 1 man + 1 woman, within 1 marriage.
”Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” – Romans 12:2
- Progression only moves one way… forward.
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1 – Clash of Cultures
If you want something you’ve never had, you need to do something you’ve never done.
“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” – Romans 12:2
We have a choice to make:
1. I can take steps that are guided by THE WORLD’S VALUES
2. I can take steps that are guided by THE WAYS OF JESUS
“All of us have strayed away like sheep. … Read the rest
6 – Consequential Love
Key scripture: 1 Kings 11:1-10
It doesn’t matter so much your intentions when you start but the reality of your life when you end.
That the decisions you are making today do determine your tomorrows.
“For Solomon went after Ashtoreth the goddess of the Sidonians, and after Milcom the abomination of the Ammonites. So Solomon did what was evil in the sight of the Lord and did not wholly follow the Lord, as David his father had done. Then Solomon built a high place for Chemosh the abomination of Moab, and for Molech the abomination of the Ammonites, on the mountain east of Jerusalem.” – 1 Kings 11:5-7
“And the Lord was angry with Solomon, because his heart had turned away from the Lord, the God of Israel, who had appeared to him twice and had commanded him concerning this thing, that he should not go after other gods.… Read the rest
5 – Committed Love
Key Scripture: Song of Solomon 7
We are all in relationships, but there is no one on earth who can meet all your needs or give you the intimacy we desire.
1. If you think something good, say it.
“How beautiful are your feet in sandals, O noble daughter! Your rounded thighs are like jewels, the work of a master hand. Your navel is a rounded bowl that never lacks mixed wine. Your belly is a heap of wheat, encircled with lilies. Your two breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle.” – Song of Solomon 7:1-3
“Your head crowns you like Carmel, and your flowing locks are like purple; a king is held captive in the tresses.” – Song of Solomon 7:5
“Your stature is like a palm tree, and your breasts are like its clusters.… Read the rest
Silly Love Songs
5 – Marry You (But let’s date first)
Dating: Anytime two people of the opposite sex are TOGETHER with the intent to GET TO KNOW one another better.
“Be careful how you act. These are difficult days. Don’t be fools. Be wise.” – Ephesians 5:15-17
What’s the purpose for dating?
1. Dating for fun.
“…don’t arouse or waken love until it so desires.” – Song of Solomon 2:7
2. Dating to be popular.
“Obviously, I’m not trying to be a people pleaser! No, I am trying to please God. If I were still trying to please people, I would not be Christ’s servant.” – Galatians 1:10
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4 – Resolving Conflict
Key Scripture: Song of Solomon 5:2-6
Root Causes of Conflict:
1. Unmet expectations
“My beloved put his hand to the latch, and my heart was thrilled within me.” – Song of Solomon 5:4
“I arose to open to my beloved, and my hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with liquid myrrh, on the handles of the bolt.” – Song of Solomon 5:5
“I opened to my beloved, but my beloved had turned and gone. My soul failed me when he spoke. I sought him, but found him not; I called him, but he gave no answer.” – Song of Solomon 5:6
How we can resolve conflict Biblically – three promises to make:
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3 – Sacred Sex
Key Scripture: Song of Solomon 4
1. Sacred sex starts long before the bedroom.
“Behold, you are beautiful, my love, behold, you are beautiful! Your eyes are doves behind your veil. Your hair is like a flock of goats leaping down the slopes of Gilead. Your teeth are like a flock of shorn ewes that have come up from the washing, all of which bear twins, and not one among them has lost its young.” – Song of Solomon 4:1-2
Before there is any physical intimacy, there is emotional intimacy being built.
“Your lips are like a scarlet thread, and your mouth is lovely.… Read the rest
Silly Love Songs
Week 1: Just the Way You Are
“Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” – John 8:32
- God’s design is unique
“You made all the delicate inner parts of my body and You knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank You for making me so wonderfully complex. Your workmanship is marvelous, and how well I know it. How precious are Your thoughts about me, O God. They are innumerable. I can’t even count them. They outnumber the grains of sand. When I wake up in the morning, You are still with me.” – Psalm 139:13-14, 17-18
- God’s plan is for relationships
“Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone.… Read the rest