Intimacy: Week 6

6 – Consequential Love


Key scripture: 1 Kings 11:1-10

It doesn’t matter so much your intentions when you start but the reality of your life when you end.

That the decisions you are making today do determine your tomorrows.

“For Solomon went after Ashtoreth the goddess of the Sidonians, and after Milcom the abomination of the Ammonites. So Solomon did what was evil in the sight of the Lord and did not wholly follow the Lord, as David his father had done. Then Solomon built a high place for Chemosh the abomination of Moab, and for Molech the abomination of the Ammonites, on the mountain east of Jerusalem.” – 1 Kings 11:5-7

“And the Lord was angry with Solomon, because his heart had turned away from the Lord, the God of Israel, who had appeared to him twice and had commanded him concerning this thing, that he should not go after other gods. But he did not keep what the Lord commanded.” – 1 Kings 11:9-10

“Now King Solomon loved many foreign women, along with the daughter of Pharaoh: Moabite, Ammonite, Edomite, Sidonian, and Hittite women, from the nations concerning which the Lord had said to the people of Israel, “You shall not enter into marriage with them, neither shall they with you, for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods.” Solomon clung to these in love. He had 700 wives, who were princesses, and 300 concubines. And his wives turned away his heart. For when Solomon was old his wives turned away his heart after other gods, and his heart was not wholly true to the Lord his God, as was the heart of David his father.” – 1 Kings 11:1-4


1.  Choose your relationships wisely.

2.  Watch your relationships carefully.

“I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people— not at all meaning the sexually immoral of this world, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters, since then you would need to go out of the world.” – 1 Corinthians 5:9-10

“Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company ruins good morals.’” – 1 Corinthians 15:33


Jesus understands your pain and hurt. He understands temptation and weakness. He even understands sexual sin.

“He has removed our rebellious acts as far from us as the east is from the west.” – Psalm 103:12

“But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us and to cleanse us from every wrong.” – 1 John 1:9

“When I refused to confess my sin,  I was weak and miserable.  I groaned all day long.  Finally I confessed all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide them.  I said to myself, I will confess my rebellion to the Lord and you forgave me.  My guilt is gone.” – Psalm 32:3, 5

“…those who become Christians become new persons…” – 2 Corinthians 5:17

Discussion Questions:

– Can you believe Solomon’s life ended like it did?  Why?  What can you learn from his choices so yours doesn’t end similarly?

– What are some choices you can commit to today so that you will finish well in the areas of love, relationships and sex?

– How do you feel after you mess up?  How does knowing God’s unconditional love and forgiveness affect you?

– Do you ever feel like you can’t be forgiven or start over?  Why?  Where do you think this message comes from?

– How can you apply what you learned tonight and in this intimacy series?