Intimacy: Week 3

3 – Sacred Sex


Key Scripture: Song of Solomon 4

1.  Sacred sex starts long before the bedroom.

“Behold, you are beautiful, my love, behold, you are beautiful! Your eyes are doves behind your veil. Your hair is like a flock of goats leaping down the slopes of Gilead. Your teeth are like a flock of shorn ewes that have come up from the washing, all of which bear twins, and not one among them has lost its young.” – Song of Solomon 4:1-2

Before there is any physical intimacy, there is emotional intimacy being built.

“Your lips are like a scarlet thread, and your mouth is lovely. Your cheeks are like halves of a pomegranate behind your veil. Your neck is like the tower of David, built in rows of stone; on it hang a thousand shields, all of them shields of warriors.” – Song of Solomon 4:3-4

2.  Sacred sex is passionate.

“Your two breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle, that graze among the lilies.” – Song of Solomon 4:5

“Until the day breathes and the shadows flee, I will go away to the mountain of myrrh and the hill of frankincense.” – Song of Solomon 4:6

3.  Sacred sex is built on total trust.

“You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.” – Song of Solomon 4:7

4.  Sacred sex is holy

“A garden locked is my sister, my bride, a spring locked, a fountain sealed. Your shoots are an orchard of pomegranates with all choicest fruits…”  – Song of Solomon 4:12-13

“A man will leave his father and mother, and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” – Matthew 19:5

“Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which belongs to Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! And don’t you know that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.” But the person who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. Run away from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Or don’t you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.” – 1 Corinthians 6:15-20

“[You are] a garden fountain, a well of living water, and flowing streams from Lebanon. Awake, O north wind, and come, O south wind! Blow upon my garden, let its spices flow.” – Song of Solomon 4:15-16a

“Let my beloved come to his garden, and eat its choicest fruits.” – Song of Solomon 4:16b

Discussion Questions:

– What sources have most influenced your view of sex? How does culture’s view differ from God’s?

– Do you understand God’s design better now? What about God’s way looks attractive to you?

– How does the concept of holiness play into physical intimacy? What can you do now to build holiness by protecting your purity?

– What commitments do you need to make for your sexuality to be God honoring?

– What will you do to find healing for any hurt or guilt you have in this area and commit to a new start through the Holy Spirit?