3 – Fear of Intimacy
“For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” 2 Timothy 1:7
“All my intimate friends abhor me, and those whom I loved have turned against me.” Job 19:19
1. Fear of intimacy makes us distant.
“But the Lord God called to the man and said to him, “Where are you?” And he said, “I heard the sound of you in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked, and I hid myself.” Genesis 3:9-10
2. Fear of intimacy makes us defensive.… Read the rest
9 – Lured by Lust
Key Scripture: “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” – Jeremiah 29:13
The most attractive and common fakes in the area of sexual impurity that Satan will try to sell you:
1. Sexual immorality is normal
“He [Adam] gave names to all the livestock, birds, and wild animals. But still there was no companion suitable for him. He’s naming all these animals and then God says, “There’s no companion for you. Let’s create one.” “So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, He took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. … Read the rest
6 – Consequential Love
Key scripture: 1 Kings 11:1-10
It doesn’t matter so much your intentions when you start but the reality of your life when you end.
That the decisions you are making today do determine your tomorrows.
“For Solomon went after Ashtoreth the goddess of the Sidonians, and after Milcom the abomination of the Ammonites. So Solomon did what was evil in the sight of the Lord and did not wholly follow the Lord, as David his father had done. Then Solomon built a high place for Chemosh the abomination of Moab, and for Molech the abomination of the Ammonites, on the mountain east of Jerusalem.” – 1 Kings 11:5-7
“And the Lord was angry with Solomon, because his heart had turned away from the Lord, the God of Israel, who had appeared to him twice and had commanded him concerning this thing, that he should not go after other gods.… Read the rest
4 – Resolving Conflict
Key Scripture: Song of Solomon 5:2-6
Root Causes of Conflict:
1. Unmet expectations
“My beloved put his hand to the latch, and my heart was thrilled within me.” – Song of Solomon 5:4
“I arose to open to my beloved, and my hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with liquid myrrh, on the handles of the bolt.” – Song of Solomon 5:5
“I opened to my beloved, but my beloved had turned and gone. My soul failed me when he spoke. I sought him, but found him not; I called him, but he gave no answer.” – Song of Solomon 5:6
How we can resolve conflict Biblically – three promises to make:
1. … Read the rest
3 – Sacred Sex
Key Scripture: Song of Solomon 4
1. Sacred sex starts long before the bedroom.
“Behold, you are beautiful, my love, behold, you are beautiful! Your eyes are doves behind your veil. Your hair is like a flock of goats leaping down the slopes of Gilead. Your teeth are like a flock of shorn ewes that have come up from the washing, all of which bear twins, and not one among them has lost its young.” – Song of Solomon 4:1-2
Before there is any physical intimacy, there is emotional intimacy being built.
“Your lips are like a scarlet thread, and your mouth is lovely.… Read the rest
Silly Love Songs
3 – Sharp Dressed Man
Key Scripture: “So God created people in his own image; God patterned them after himself; male and female He created them.” – Genesis 1:27
Your identity shapes your actions. What you believe determines how you behave.
“The Lord God said: ‘It is not good for the man to be alone.’” – Genesis 2:18
Guys are PHYSICAL.
Girls are RELATIONAL.
Guys are VISUAL.
Girls are VERBAL.
Guys tend to THINK their emotions; girls tend to FEEL their emotions.
The Bible describes men as:
- The Warrior
“The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.… Read the rest
2 – Relational Pursuit
Key Scripture: Song of Solomon 2:8-17
1. Relational preparation must come before relational pursuit.
“… For behold, the winter is past; the rain is over and gone. The flowers appear on the earth, the time of singing has come, and the voice of the turtledove is heard in our land.” – Song of Solomon 2:11-12
2. Relational practice understands Godly pursuit.
“The voice of my beloved! Behold, he comes, leaping over the mountains, bounding over the hills. My beloved is like a gazelle or a young stag. Behold, there he stands behind our wall, gazing through the windows, looking through the lattice.… Read the rest
1 – Magnetic Attraction
Key Scripture: Song of Solomon 1:1-7
“The Song of Songs, which is Solomon’s.
Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth!
For your love is better than wine;
your anointing oils are fragrant;
your name is oil poured out;
therefore virgins love you.
Draw me after you; let us run.
The king has brought me into his chambers.
We will exult and rejoice in you;
we will extol your love more than wine;
rightly do they love you.
I am very dark, but lovely,
O daughters of Jerusalem,
like the tents of Kedar,
like the curtains of Solomon.
… Read the rest