Intimacy: Week 2

2 – Relational Pursuit


Key Scripture: Song of Solomon 2:8-17

1.  Relational preparation must come before relational pursuit.

“… For behold, the winter is past; the rain is over and gone. The flowers appear on the earth, the time of singing has come, and the voice of the turtledove is heard in our land.” – Song of Solomon 2:11-12

2.  Relational practice understands Godly pursuit.

“The voice of my beloved! Behold, he comes, leaping over the mountains, bounding over the hills. My beloved is like a gazelle or a young stag. Behold, there he stands behind our wall, gazing through the windows, looking through the lattice. My beloved speaks and says to me: “Arise, my love, my beautiful one, and come away.” – Song of Solomon 2:8-10


Limit your time

Limit your talk

Limit your touch


1.  Pursue intimacy

“O my dove, in the clefts of the rock, in the crannies of the cliff, let me see your face, let me hear your voice, for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely.” – Song of Solomon 2:14

2.  Protect your purity

“Catch the foxes for us, the little foxes that spoil the vineyards, for our vineyards are in blossom.” – Song of Solomon 2:15

“The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body… Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.  Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” – 1 Corinthians 6:13, 18-20

Keep your feet on the floor, keep the lights on, keep your clothes on.

“My beloved is mine and I am his; he grazes among the lilies.” – Song of Solomon 2:16

“Until the day breathes and the shadows flee, turn, my beloved, be like a gazelle or a young stag on cleft mountains.” – Song of Solomon 2:17

If you want what everybody else has, do what everybody else does.  If you want what few people have, do what few people do.


Discussion Questions:

– What are your experiences with relational intimacy? Have you found that with God? With others? Why did Todd say it was so important?

– Why is it so important to have a season of preparation before pursuit/practice? Do you find that difficult as a hs student? How can you embrace this season better?

– If you enter into a relationship now as a hs student, what should you watch out for? How can you protect and limit your time, talk and touch?

– What standards have you set (or will you set) when it comes to your purity?  Why is it so important to pre-decide?

– Why do you think God laid out the relationship and purity standards that He did? How can you put them into practice this week?