I Just Want My Pants Back
2: Guy Talk / Girl Talk
In case you never thought of it before, let me tell you something huge tonight… guys and girls are different. I’m going to share with you some of the stereotypical differences between guys and girls tonight. Now, I understand that these are stereotypes. Some of you will come up to me and go “Oh, that’s not me.” And I will go, yeah, okay, sure! But this isn’t for 100% of guys and 100% of girls, but I think you will find that these are pretty true. They are pretty true because most have been proven true since God created Adam and Eve. And I think that is a great place to start. God created us with differences. Look at what the Bible says in Genesis 1:27
But not only did God create us with differences, He created us to be together. We will talk more about this in a few weeks when we talk about dating, but I want you to know that God created man and woman to be together. It’s part of his design. Genesis 2:18
First, is this, girls are RELATIONAL. Girls hold a higher value on relationships than guys do. You even see this when girls go to the bathroom, they go “Okay everybody, let’s go”. And they just run to the bathroom together, and girls just love to be in relationships, ‘cause girls are relational.
Girls are relational, where guys are physical. Guys are PHYSICAL… girls are turned on by relationships; guys are turned on by touch. Some of you girls, you just walk up and pretend I’m a girl, “Hi how ya doin?” You do something, just a little touch like that, and you think it’s innocent and fine, but you know inside? He’s going “WOOOAAAHH”, inside he’s going a little bit crazy because guys dig touch. Now, go non-sexual for a second, think about little boys. Why is it when you put a little boy in a room, and you put a little girl in a room, what does the little boy do? He punches her! Little guys want to wrestle, they’re physical, and that’s how guys are wired.
Second thing I want you to write down is that girls are VERBAL. Girls love to talk. You love the phone. Guys, you know what a phone is for, details. Hey, just give me the details. When, where, how much, okay, bye. I understand this. I happen to live with I woman – I’m married. When I call one of you guys, I go, “Hey, this is Todd from church.” Hey. “Hey, what are you doing?” Nothin. “Alright, I was calling to see how your week is going”. Nothin. Alright, you know that’s it, eight seconds. You’re okay, you’re done.
Girls love to talk about stuff; where girls are verbal, guys are visual. Some of you guys in here, you’re going to think “Dude, you’re blowing my cover”. I can’t believe you sold us out, you’re a dude and you sold us out”.
Well, the reason I’m selling you out is because most girls in here have no idea about this. Now they think they do, some girls think they know everything. But guys are VISUAL. Ladies, I just want to let you know that guys are so visually stimulated; they can be turned on very quickly by the sight of just anything.
I encourage you, go to the mall and just sit down, and watch guys. Watch guys how they scope out girls, they watch until they see the eyes aren’t there anymore, and then they check out the whole body. Just watch, guys are visually turned on, visually oriented, visually stimulated. Why is it that the pornography industry is 99.9% targeted towards males?
Here’s the next one, girls prefer ROMANCE. Girls love to be cherished and romanced, the whole idea of family and security. That’s why girls want to go see chick flicks. You love chick flicks, right? Now, do they love chick flicks because of the nudity? Are girls ever walking out of a chick flick going “Wasn’t that an awesome sex scene?” No, they’re walking out going “They got together at the end,” where guys are like, “Show me some skin”.
Next thing I want you to write down is that girls love CHIVALRY. Some of you have no idea what this means because you’ve never seen it or experienced it. This is treating girls like a queen. This is not a natural thing, you’ve got to learn to do this.
You know what guys like, guys like BUDDIES. They like buddies, I want to be with buddies. That’s why, some of you girls, you’ve dated guys, or have been in a relationship with guys who try to treat you like buddies. They punch you in the arm, “Hey, let’s wrestle”, that kind of thing. Guys think this would be the ultimate relationship, if I could be with a girl and we could just make out some, and then play Xbox until I’m hungry, and then eat food until I’m full and that would be the perfect relationship. And some of you guys are “Yeah, so what’s wrong with that?” Guys are just into buddies.
The next thing is that girls tend to FEEL their emotions, where guys tend to THINK their emotions. Now again, I’m not suggesting it never goes the other way around, but primarily girls are more emotional. And when there is something wrong they feel it, and it kind of runs through their entire body. And as guys, we know there’s something wrong ‘cause they’re just kinda in that ‘hmmph’, you know, they’re just kinda feeling it, and they want you to feel it, and the guys are like, “Whattya thinking”? And what do they say, “Nothing”. Guys think their emotions, like “I think there’s something wrong, what are you thinking about?” And then she’s over here going “I’m not thinking, I’m feeling, and I just want you to…”. Girls are so much better at being emotional and sharing their emotions.
The next one here is, girls like EXPERIENCES. Girls love experiences. And not only do they love experiences but they want to remember them and that’s why they have a closet full of memories stored away in shoeboxes!
Girls like experiences, here’s what I want you to write down for the next one, guys want to be EXPERIENCED. Gentlemen, can I tell you that this is one of the great lies of the world. You see guys want to be able to say how far they’ve gone with how many people, and they keep track, and they tell girls they’re never going to say anything, but they always wind up telling, in the nights when they’re talking about what they’ve done, and that type of thing. And here’s what guys think, the more experienced you are, the cooler that you are. Now, that may be true in an immature setting, but the day you find the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with, you know that she will not be applauding, and she will not think that’s cool. That woman that you’re going to marry and spend the rest of your life with, she’s not going to think it’s cool that you’ve slept with this ___ number of girls and you’ve done this and that.
The last one in your notes is this, girls sex drive is SLOW, where guys sex drive is FAST. That’s why, ladies, for many of you, you’re going, man, this is moving too fast, too far, too quick. Why? Because a guy’s sex drive is fast. It is a light switch that is always on. Girls is not, it is like a dimmer switch that is slowly turned on.
Now, you look at these differences, and can I tell you, when you look at these differences, and they’re not fully understood, that is why there’s so much pain in this world. For some of you, there’s so much pain in this room. Some of you girls, you went into this whole thing thinking you wanted to be loved, and held and appreciated, and in a relationship that would make you feel a certain way. And guys go in, in some ways, wanting a relationship, but in many ways wanting to be sexually involved, it’s just how they’re wired. And there’s so much hurt!
How Can These Differences Impact a Life?
1. Understand the differences and honor one another.
That’s really the reason that I wanted to talk about this today is because I want some of you to understand the differences. And some of you walk in here going, oh, I already knew that. You know, I really believe that you knew about 10% of it, you really do. And what you walk out of here fully understanding, I’m not exactly sure. But when you understand that man, those are incredible differences! And what I’m saying to guys, would you honor girls? Would you respect them?
Guys you need to respect and honor girls… and not just “your girl” but all of them. Respect and honor them because that is what is not only expected, but required of you by God. Don’t undress them with your eyes or pressure them in any way physically. That’s not how they are to be treated.
On the same hand, though, girls… if you are a Christian, you know that guys are your brothers in Christ. And if you’re a Christian, your goal is to help him grow into the likeness of Jesus Christ, just like other people are trying to do in your life. And one of the ways you can do this is by dressing in a way that honors God. Look what it says in Romans 12:10
1 Corinthians 13:4-5 Love is patient. Let me stop right there for a second. Let me tell you what lust is. Lust is impulsive, lust is I want it now! Lust is, you got something, I want it. That’s lust! The Bible says that love is patient. So girls, when a guy says, hey, I love you and if you love me, you will. I can’t wait any longer, we’ve been dating a year; we’ve been dating six months. We’ve been dating two weeks. Whatever it is, you know, if you love me, you will. That’s not love. If he can’t wait, that’s lust.
