Allies – Week 6


6 – Choosing Friends

Big Idea:show me your friends and I’ll show you your future. 

Theme verse:“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. 10 If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.  12 A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, 12)

Be the kind of friend you would want to have.

  1. Be a friend who cares.

Jesus replied with a story: “A Jewish man was traveling on a trip from Jerusalem to Jericho, and he was attacked by bandits. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him up, and left him half dead beside the road. “By chance a priest came along. But when he saw the man lying there, he crossed to the other side of the road and passed him by. A Temple assistant walked over and looked at him lying there, but he also passed by on the other side. “Then a despised Samaritan came along, and when he saw the man, he felt compassion for him. Going over to him, the Samaritan soothed his wounds with olive oil and wine and bandaged them. Then he put the man on his own donkey and took him to an inn, where he took care of him. The next day he handed the innkeeper two silver coins, telling him, ‘Take care of this man. If his bill runs higher than this, I’ll pay you the next time I’m here.’ “Now which of these three would you say was a neighbor to the man who was attacked by bandits?” Jesus asked. The man replied, “The one who showed him mercy.” Then Jesus said, “Yes, now go and do the same.”  (Luke 10:30-37)

  1. Be a friend who is reliable.

“There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.”  (Proverbs 18:24)

“A friend is always loyal (or reliable), and a brother is born to help in time of need.” (Proverbs 17:17)

  1.  Be a friend who tells the truth.  

“Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.” (Proverbs 27:6)

“Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends.” (Proverbs 17:9)

“As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” (Proverbs 27:17)

(1) It’s hard to be honest. 

(2) We don’t want to do this in our friendships because we don’t want it coming back to us.

“Better to correct someone openly than to have love and not show it.  The slap of a friend can be trusted to help you but the kisses of an enemy are nothing but lies.” (Proverbs 27: 5-6)

  1.  Be a friend that encourages.

“Good people have good things in their heart and so they say good things.  But evil people have evil in their hearts so they say evil things.” (Matthew 12:35)

”Careless words stab like a sword.”  (Proverbs 12:18)

“Encourage each other and give each other strength.” (1 Thessalonians 5:11)

  1. Be a friend that gives your all.

“There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” (John 15:13)

Be the friend you want to have!

Discussion Q’s

–       Have you had some good friends? How did you first meet them? What makes them a good friend?

–       Have you ever ended up in the wrong crowd?  How did that happen?  What was the result?

–       Why is it more important to focus on what kind of friend you are than the other person?

–       What stood out to you in the video?  Why?

–       How can you apply what you learned tonight to your life?