Allies – Week 3

3 – Friends Come First

Big Idea: Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.

Theme Verse: “Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. 10 If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.  12 A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10,12)

Once you learn that the world doesn’t revolve around you, you will become a better friend.

Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves.” (Philippians 2:3-4)

1.  Friends listen first… then give advice.

“Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish.” (Proverbs 18:13)

“Be quick to listen, slow to speak…” (James 1:19)

2.  Friends overlook faults first… before criticizing or judging.

Good friendships happen when we are able to forgive and forget.

“Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn others, or it will all come back against you. Forgive others, and you will be forgiven.” (Luke 6:37)

3.  Friends put the needs of others first… before their own needs.

Important Principle: The best path to great friendships is to figure out what others need rather than demand what we want from them.

Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. In other words, adopt the mind-set of Jesus the Anointed. Live with His attitude in your hearts.” (Philippians 2:4-5)

“There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” (John 15:13)

Final Thought –> Jesus is the ultimate friend. And I can experience greater friendships when I become more like Him.

Discussion Q’s

–       What are some of the qualities of a good friend?  Have you seen them in your friends?  Do you see them in yourself?

–       What does it feel like to you when someone listens to you well?  Do you feel like you are a good listener?  How could you get better?

–       How do you handle conflict with your friends?  Are you quick to judge and criticize?  Are you willing to forgive?

–       How can you take what you learned and apply it to your friendships this week?