2 – Good and Angry
“Anger is not a problem to solve. It’s a human capacity – like sex, happiness and sorrow. It is a complex human response to a complex world. And like all human capacities and responses, it sometimes works well, but too often goes bad. Anger creates problems. But having and expressing the right kind of anger in the right way is a good goal.” (David Powlison in Good and Angry)
Big Idea:Our response to anger can keep us out of danger.
4 ways we deal with anger:
- Incredible Hulk
- The Stuffer
- The “Everything Is Great” Person
- Stealth Attacker
“Fools give vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.” (Proverbs 29:11)
It doesn’t really matter if you can get away with your anger. In the end, you can’t get away from the consequences your anger creates.
And Jesus entered the temple and drove out all who sold and bought in the temple, and he overturned the tables of the money-changers and the seats of those who sold pigeons. He said to them, “It is written, ‘My house shall be called a house of prayer,’ but you make it a den of robbers.” (Matthew 21:12-13)
“Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger and give no opportunity to the devil.” (Ephesians 4:26-27)
– What typically makes you angry? When you are angry, how do you tend to respond?
– In what ways can our responses to anger get us in trouble?
– How do wise people bring “calm” in the end? What would that look like in your life?
– Why is it a good idea to pause before you act in anger?
– How does identifying the true issue help you manage your anger?
– Name two healthy ways you can express anger.
– Why do you think releasing (forgiving) is something that needs to be done over and over?