Me + You – Week 5

“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God…”   1 Thessalonians 4:3-5

Sexual immorality is a sexual desire that dishonors its object and disregards God’s plan and design.
1.  Relationship Pitfalls 

What are the best choices for my life, my relationship with God, and for my future?”

“Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband.  God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.” Hebrews 13:4

“Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers, but whose delight is in the law of the Lord, and who meditates on his law day and night. That person is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither — whatever they do prospers.” Psalm 1:1-3

2.  Individual Pitfalls

“You have heard that the Law of Moses says, `Do not commit adultery.’  But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust in his eye has already committed adultery with her in his heart.  So if your eye – even if it is your good eye – causes you to lust, gouge it out and throw it away.  It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.  And if your hand – even if it is your stronger hand – causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away.  It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.” Matthew 5:27-30

“Our bodies were not made for sexual immorality.  They were made for the Lord, and the Lord cares about our bodies.” 1 Corinthians 6:13

Action Steps for Both Areas of Pitfalls

1.  Establish a temptation plan

• I know my bottom-line (how far is too far vs. what’s best for future)
• I’ve communicated my standards
• I will stick to my convictions.  (Even though it’s very difficult.)
• I will avoid compromising situations. 
• I will get out when necessary.
“Run from anything that stimulates youthful lust.  Follow anything that makes you want to do what is right.  Pursue faith and love and peace and enjoy the companionship with those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.” 2 Timothy 2:22

2.  Verbalize your boundary plans

“Plans go wrong for lack of advice; many counselors bring success.” Proverbs 15:22

3.  Ask for accountability

A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer.  Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.”         Ecclesiastes 4:12

4.  Guard your mind

“And one more thing I want you to get.  Fix your thoughts on what is true and honorable and right.  Think about things that are pure and lovely and admirable.  Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.” Philippians 4:8

Discussion Questions:

  1. Have you given much thought to the temptations and pitfalls that are around you? What have you fallen into already?
  2. Are your struggles more on the relationship or individual side of the pitfalls?
  3. What plans do you have in place to prevent or fight the temptations?  What plans do you need to develop?
  4. How can you learn to live more transparently in these areas of struggle? Where do you need to ask for help?
  5. Overall, how has this series helped you? Challenged you? What is your big takeaway?