Relationships: No Strings Attached
2 – Relating
“Sometime later Samson fell in love with a woman named Delilah, who lived in the valley of Sorek. The rulers of the Philistines went to her and said, “Entice Samson to tell you what makes him so strong and how he can be overpowered and tied up securely. Then each of us will give you 1,100 pieces of silver.” So Delilah said to Samson, “Please tell me what makes you so strong and what it would take to tie you up securely.” Samson replied, “If I were tied up with seven new bowstrings that have not yet been dried, I would become as weak as anyone else.” So the Philistine rulers brought Delilah seven new bowstrings, and she tied Samson up with them. She had hidden some men in one of the inner rooms of her house, and she cried out, “Samson! The Philistines have come to capture you!” But Samson snapped the bowstrings as a piece of string snaps when it is burned by a fire. So the secret of his strength was not discovered.” – Judges 16:4-9
“Then Delilah pouted, “How can you tell me, ‘I love you,’ when you don’t share your secrets with me? You’ve made fun of me three times now, and you still haven’t told me what makes you so strong!” She tormented him with her nagging day after day until he was sick to death of it. Finally, Samson shared his secret with her. “My hair has never been cut,” he confessed, “for I was dedicated to God as a Nazirite from birth. If my head were shaved, my strength would leave me, and I would become as weak as anyone else.” Delilah realized he had finally told her the truth, so she sent for the Philistine rulers. “Come back one more time,” she said, “for he has finally told me his secret.” So the Philistine rulers returned with the money in their hands. Delilah lulled Samson to sleep with his head in her lap, and then she called in a man to shave off the seven locks of his hair. In this way she began to bring him down, and his strength left him. Then she cried out, “Samson! The Philistines have come to capture you!” When he woke up, he thought, “I will do as before and shake myself free.” But he didn’t realize the Lord had left him. So the Philistines captured him and gouged out his eyes. They took him to Gaza, where he was bound with bronze chains and forced to grind grain in the prison. But before long, his hair began to grow back.” – Judges 16:15-22
FOR THE LADIES:
1. Beware of the guy who only looks good on the outside
2. Beware of the guy who falls in love and out of love all the time
3. Beware of the guy who keeps secrets from you
FOR THE DUDES:
1. Be a man of self-control
“For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men. It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age.” – Titus 2:11-12
2. Be a man of character
3. Be a man who respects women
“Treat older women as you would your mother, and treat younger women with all purity as you would your own sisters.” – 1 Timothy 5:2
“Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God. But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love.” – 1 John 4:7
“Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other. No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and his love is brought to full expression in us. And God has given us his Spirit as proof that we live in him and he in us.” – 1 John 4:11-13
– Real love starts with experiencing God’s love
– Real love is built on honesty and trust
– Real love is selfless
The greatest and deepest love you can experience is when you are willing to give up your life for someone else.
1. What seemed to be the focus of Todd’s message when it came to relating to the opposite gender?
2. What should you be focusing on now in this season of dating and preparation for marriage? What area when it comes to character do you need to work on most?
3. How can you practice relating to the opposite gender in a “no strings attached” kind of way?
4. Can you paint a picture of how love is described in the Bible? Why must that be the standard?
5. Why will thinking of the bullseye of marriage actually help you in your relationships now? What can you put into practice this week?