Comparison Trap: Week 2


Comparison Trap
Week 2
10/18/15

Key verse:Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. For we are each responsible for our own conduct.” – Galatians 6:4-5

There is no win in comparison.

When we compare ourselves to others… 

1) We say that what God created isn’t good.

“Then God said, ‘Let us make man in our image, after our likeness…So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female God created them. And God blessed them…And God saw everything that He had made, and behold, it was very good…” – Genesis 1:26-31

2) We make unfair judgements. 

3) We rob God of the glory.

“We use comparison like a measuring stick, assessing our own worthiness based on others’ victories or failures, beating ourselves or one another down with it. Comparison is a thug that robs your joy. But it’s even more than that – comparison makes you a thug who beats down somebody – or your soul. Scales always lie. They don’t make a scale that ever told the truth about value, worth, significance. There are no better or worse people – only God-made souls. There is no point trying to size people up, no trying to compare – because souls defy measuring…If we continually compare ourselves to the people around us, we miss the opportunity to build others up and bring glory to God in what we can do.” – Ann Voskamp

How do we fight the sin of comparison?

1) Measure your worth and value by God’s definition of who you are

“Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.” – Galatians 1:10

“But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. Once you were not a people, but now you are the people of God; once you had not received mercy, but now you have received mercy.” – 2 Peter 2:9-10

“I am the me that God designed. He didn’t make me on accident, and He didn’t form me with some societal mold in mind that He was trying to measure up to. He is infinitely creative and brilliant. Every time God creates, He does so with intention. He utilized an equal and exact amount of creativity when He made you, and every other person on this planet.” – Jenny LaBahn, author

2) Strive to put God first in your life.

“Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life… But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” – Matthew 6:25,33

3) Seek to encourage others and bring out their God-given characteristics. 

“Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.” – Hebrews 10:24-25

 

Discussion Questions:

  • What stood out to you in what Andie shared tonight?
  • Where have you been tempted to compare yourselves to others? Do you typically build yourself up or tear yourself down in comparing yourself to others (i.e. do you typically think you are better than others or worse than others)?
  • Have the thought ever occurred to you that when we compare ourselves to others, we are actually telling God He didn’t do a good job? How does this make you feel?
  • How might God be challenging you to rest and depend on Him instead of comparing yourself to others? How can you apply this to your life this week?