How to Raise Your Parents
3 – Be the Solution
“Don’t be selfish. Don’t live to make a good impression on others. Be humble thinking of others better than yourself. Don’t just think about your own affairs but be interested in others and what they’re doing.” – Philippians 2:3-4
Practical steps to being the solution in your family, not the problem:
1. You can tear down and lose, or you can build up and win with your words.
“Careless words stab like a sword, but wise words bring healing.” – Proverbs 12:18
2. You can be ungrateful and lose, or be thankful and win.
“And anyone who won’t care for his own relatives when they need help, especially those living in his own family, has no right to say that he is a Christian. Such a person is worse than the person who does not believe in God.” – 1 Timothy 5:8
3. You can be bitter and lose or you can forgive and win.
“Stop being bitter or angry or mad. Quarreling, harsh words or dislike of others should have no place in your life. Instead be kind to each other, tenderhearted forgiving one another just as God has forgiven you because you belong to Christ.” – Ephesians 4:31
4. You can do this on your own and lose or you can ask God for wisdom and win.
“So we continue to pray for you ever since we heard about you. We ask God to give you a complete understanding of what he wants to do in your life. We ask him to make you wise with spiritual wisdom. Then the way you live will always honor and please the Lord. You’ll continually do good and kind things for others. All the while you learn to know God better and better.” – Colossians 1:9-10
“Give thanks whatever happens. This is what God wants for you in Christ Jesus.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:18
1 – Talk about what you think it means to help raise your parents.
2 – How do you see your words affecting your family? Where do they need to be more encouraging (to build up)?
3 – Are you grateful? Do you express this to your family? Why or why not?
4 – Where are you holding on to unforgiveness and bitterness? How can you let go of that?
5 – How can you ask for God’s wisdom and help this week to put Todd’s message into practice?