3 – Pursuing Popularity
Key Scripture: “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” – Jeremiah 29:13
“God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in Him.”
Big Idea: Chasing popularity as a treasure usually produces jealousy as the result.
“You must not covet your neighbor’s house. You must not covet your neighbor’s wife, male or female servant, ox or donkey, or anything else that belongs to your neighbor.” – Exodus 20:17
We immediately become discontent when we compare ourselves with other people.
1. It is natural to compare yourself to others.
2. When you compare, you lose.
“A sound heart is the life of the flesh: but envy [jealousy] the rottenness of the bones.” – Proverbs 14:30
“Your eye is a lamp that provides light for your body. When your eye is good, your whole body is filled with light. But when your eye is bad, your whole body is filled with darkness. And if the light you think you have is actually darkness, how deep that darkness is! “No one can serve two masters. For you will hate one and love the other; you will be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.” – Matthew 6:22-24
How is my heart responding when something good happens to someone else?
Chasing popularity that results in jealousy is a sign of spiritual immaturity.
“… for you are still controlled by your sinful nature. You are jealous of one another and quarrel with each other. Doesn’t that prove you are controlled by your sinful nature? Aren’t you living like people of the world?” – 1 Corinthians 3:3
HOW TO FIGHT JEALOUSY IN YOUR HEART
1. THANKFULNESS: Be thankful for what God has given you and who you are.
“Then he said, “Beware! Guard against every kind of greed. Life is not measured by how much you own.” – Luke 12:15
2. CONTENTMENT: Know that contentment fights jealousy head on.
“Don’t love money; be satisfied with what you have. For God has said, “I will never fail you. I will never abandon you.” – Hebrews 13:5
I admit …
… that I’m sometimes jealous of other people’s popularity.
… that I sometimes it is difficult for me to be content with what I have
… that I sometimes post stuff just to show off my life / brag
I promise …
… this week I’ll check my jealousy right from the start
… this week I’ll focus on living in contentment in Christ
… this week I’ll pursue popularity with God not the world
3. Start to value things differently
“Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” – Matthew 6:33
1. What stuck out in your mind about what Todd talked about tonight?
2. Why do you think there is so much pressure to be popular? Where does it come from?
3. When you think of the area of “popularity” – what is it that you and most other teenagers chasing after?
4. Why do you think there is such an emphasis in popularity in middle and high school? How does that compare to the rest of your life? Do you think you will care about your middle school or high school popularity when you are an adult?
Read Matthew 6:22-24
1. How does Jesus teach about the things of this world – how does He describe them?
2. Does Jesus ever teach that being popular is wrong? What is the important principle He teaches?
3. Verse 21 really is a powerful verse because it shows us that our heart always tells the truth. We can say one thing with our mouth, but our heart will always reveal what we value. How does it work like that?
4. How does this passage encourage you to think about what you treasure?
5. What would it look like for you to live differently that the world around you when it comes to popularity? How would you be different as a middle school student if you didn’t care about popularity?
6. How can making Jesus popular in your life actually help in this area?
Spend some time in personal reflection and prayer about your desires to be popular. Pray that pursuing Christ would be your ultimate treasure.